Justin Lioi, Author at Justin Lioi, LCSW - Brooklyn, NY

How to Help By Not Helping

So often in my office I’ve heard the story of a guy who’s really upset that their help is being rejected or responded to with derision. They are angry, confused, and judgmental–often at the same time. They can clearly see what their partner, their...

Compassion is the Answer

I recently listened to one of the most freeing podcasts I’ve ever heard. It’s called ‘Man Enough’ and it’s hosted by Justin Baldoni, Liz Plank, & Jamey Heath. This particular episode featured an interview with Alok Vaid-Menon. A...

How a Shame Identity is Harmful

Our self-esteem can be strongly connected to how well we can separate what we do from who we are. Getting to be comfortable with distinguishing between feeling guilty and feeling shame is key to this. We need to learn to hold ourselves accountable for harmful things...