I’ve been reading the book Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World that Can’t Stop Talking by Susan Cain and find it exciting to see pop culture focusing on the people who aren’t always comfortable grabbing the spotlight. Cain has a great quote that connects with that image: “The secret to life is to put yourself in the right lighting.”
Some people want to create who they are and more power to them. It can be equally satisfying (and require less pressure) to create the space for who you are to unfold. Introverted, extroverted or somewhere in between, just how well do you know where your strengths lie? Do you know both where you shine and where you’re more effective pulling the strings from off stage. Either way can still maintain your sense of empowerment because the power is in doing your Socratic best to Know Thyself.
Cain gives a fun quiz that might let you know just a little more of thyself than you already do. Were you surprised at where you landed on the scale? She has some tips for how to use that knowledge as well.
Justin Lioi, LCSW is a men’s mental health and relationship expert based in Brooklyn, NY (and online throughout New York State and internationally.) He received his degree from New York University and has been providing counseling for men and their families for over 10 years. Justin is on the Board of the National Association of Social Workers and writes a weekly column for the Good Men Project called Unmasking Masculinity. He can be found on local and national podcasts talking about assertiveness, anger, self-compassion, all with the goal of becoming the man you want to be.