counseling Archives - Justin Lioi, LCSW - Brooklyn, NY
How to Get a Man to Go to Therapy

How to Get a Man to Go to Therapy

To get a man to go to therapy there are a few things you need to take into consideration. Men are not socialized to ask for help—especially when it comes to slippery “feminine” things like their emotions. But men have them (emotions, that is) and often could use some...
Regrets Without Shame

Regrets Without Shame

I recently spoke with someone who told me that she and a friend had made a promise when they were younger. They vowed to live life with “no regrets.” We spoke more about what that meant. It was something different to them as teenagers than it is now, but the life...
SHOULD We Let Go of Male Supremacy?

SHOULD We Let Go of Male Supremacy?

I truly believe we will only become fully free when we finally give up the idea of male supremacy. It’s not going to be easy and it’s not something we can do individually. I see lots of men in relationships, out of relationships, as fathers, wanting to be...
Feeling the Feeling

Feeling the Feeling

Therapy is at its best when you’re able to not only talk about your feelings but to start actually feeling the feeling. And you do this in the safe, nonjudgmental presence of your counselor. Maybe that doesn’t make a lot of sense because so many guys come to me...
When You Feel Shame In Counseling: What to DO

When You Feel Shame In Counseling: What to DO

In my monthly article for Good Therapy I focus on a difficult topic: shame. I’ve written about shame before, but this is specifically, talking about feelings of shame IN counseling. This is about the times your therapist does something—a facial expression, a...