This is just a quick post about behavior change. It comes up a bunch because people want to shift something about their behavior and they just can’t seem to do it so they get very judgmental.
“I’m lazy.”
I hear this a bunch because people get it in their head that they should be able to do whatever it is they set their minds out to do. But they don’t.
And the keyword in that last paragraph is “minds.” We believe we can think ourselves out of every situation. Sure, knowing more can be helpful, changing situations can be helpful. We all know that if we put two Oreos on a plate we will eat less Oreos than if we take the whole box to the couch and watch Game of Thrones. We’ve read Freakonomics, we’ve watched videos of the latest life hacks. Maybe we’ve even really made a change.
But more often then not we don’t and we buy into the idea that we’re “lazy.”
We’ve probably been hearing it since we were kids, maybe told we were lazy because we didn’t study or didn’t do our chores. Neither of which we wanted to do.
There’s Always A Reason
In my experience there’s always a reason–not an excuse, but a reason for behavior. Delving into this may show us some emotional, physical, maybe even a cognitive, reason.
The one thing it won’t be is because we’re “lazy.”
I’m putting “lazy” up there with “boring.” I don’t really believe in these things. There’s always something going on underneath.
Looking at our feelings when we’re telling ourselves that we’re “lazy” will give us a lot more information about what’s stopping us from getting something done.
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